Changing Human Behavior
Did you make a New Year’s Resolution this year? Most people didn’t. If you are one of the few who did how is it working out for you? Don’t feel bad if the answer is ‘it’s not’. Ninety-Five percent of people broke theirs by January 15th. Almost no one made it to the end of February. Why is that? Why don’t we make or keep resolutions? Because we go about it all wrong.
Most of us come up with a resolution like ‘I want to lose weight’ or ‘I want to get a better job’. Yet we have no idea how to achieve these things. We have no plan. The only time we’re even aware of our resolution is a vague sense of guilt whenever we do something that clearly violates it.
So what can we do about it? How can we actually accomplish the things we want to? By understanding your own behavior and resolving to change it. This article will teach you exactly how to do that.
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Create a Specific Vision
If you don’t know where you’re going how can you ever get there? You need a clear goal. A vision of what you’d like to achieve. ’I want to lose weight’ is not a vision. ’I want to be in the best shape of my life’ is.
Think about how nice it would be to drop every ounce of fat. To tone your entire body until you make other people at the gym envious. Think about how that would feel. Think about how it would be to get up in the morning, how much energy you’d have and how good you would look.
That is a specific vision. If you don’t have one then you’re never going to motivate yourself to achieve it.
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Is it Possible and Do I Really Want it?
Now that you have a specific vision it’s time to decide if it is something you can really achieve. To do that you need to ask yourself two questions. Is this possible and Do I really want it. If the answer to both isn’t yes you will never succeed. If you believe you can’t or if you don’t really, really want it then how are you going to do it? You just can’t. It’s not possible.
So make it possible. Don’t accept that you’ll never get what you want.. Resolve to you achieve your goal. Visualize how amazing it would be to get what you wanted. Yes I can get in the best shape of my life. And I really want it.
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Identify Critical Behaviors
If you are overweight ask yourself why. Do you eat a lot of fast food? How often do you work out? If you aren’t happy with your body the answers are probably yes and not very often.
These behaviors are a part of where most people fail, but they don’t get at the underlying reason. They aren’t critical behaviors. Changing either won’t get you were you want to be. So what will? What single behavior should you change to accomplish your goal? Find the most critical one.
Make yourself accountable. Step on that scale every single day. Make yourself look at your weight. Is it depressing? Of course it is. But do it anyway.
Doing so will ripple across a whole range of behaviors. Every time you want that second or third piece of pizza you’ll know you’re going to regret it when you step on the scale in the morning. Every time you want to hit that snooze button instead of going to the gym you’ll think twice because you know that scale is waiting.
Then find a second critical behavior. Something else that will cause a similar effect across a wide range of behaviors. In the case of weight loss what would have the greatest impact?
Make other people hold you accountable. Tell your friends that you are trying to lose weight. Ask them to check in with you, to ask you how things are going. Ask them to compliment you if they think you are really losing weight. Have them watch what you’re eating when they are around you. If they think it isn’t healthy ask them to speak up.
This social pressure will reinforce the first critical behavior you cultivated. Now you know that if you eat that second piece of pizza not only will you have to face the scale, but you’ll also have to face your family and friends.
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Make Good Behavior its Own Reward
We all know how bad it feels to step on the scale when we’re out of shape. We know what it feels like to go to a wedding when we’ve gained weight. Now imagine the opposite. Imagine stepping on the scale and seeing the number go down. Imagine going to the wedding having lost 20 pounds.
Following the right behaviors will make these things happen and you will enjoy them immensely. Learn to love them. They will propel you towards your goal and the more you accomplish the more you will want to accomplish.
You’ll gain momentum and before you know it you’ll reach your goal and be looking around for another one.
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Propinquity is a Really Funny Word
Propinquity studies how physical distance affects human behavior. Let’s go back to our weight loss example. If your cupboard is stocked with cookies and your freezer is full of hamburger what sort of food are you going to eat? All the wrong things are close at hand.
What if all you had in the house was healthy food? What would you eat? If you want a greasy hamburger you’re going to have to leave the house to go get it. Wouldn’t it be easier to just eat those radishes you bought yesterday?
That is propinquity. You can leverage it’s power to make good behaviors easier and bad behaviors harder. If you drive by the same fast food place every night maybe you should find a different way home. If you aren’t going to the gym maybe you need to invest in some equipment for your home.
Stack the deck in your favor. It’s easier to do than you might think.
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Tying it All Together
If you do any one of the things I listed above you’ll probably see a small benefit, but if you do them all you’ll work miracles. These techniques are far greater than the sum of their parts. Each helps to build the momentum you need to reach your goal.
So harness them all. Start with the vision and work your way down. Add one a week and make sure you’re doing each before you add another one. Do that and this time next year people will be amazed at what you’ve accomplished.






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